Tip 1: Communication, the Foundation of Rediscovered Intimacy

First and foremost, desire is born in the mind and heart before it manifests in the body. If the emotional connection is broken, the physical connection struggles to follow. The first and most crucial step is to re-establish open, honest, and compassionate communication.

Dare to talk about your desires and frustrations

Silence is often a couple's worst enemy. Fear of hurting the other person, embarrassment, or simply habit can prevent us from expressing our needs. Yet, verbalizing our feelings is liberating. It's not about accusing, but about sharing what we feel. Use "I" statements rather than "you" statements.

• Instead of "You never pay attention to me," try "I sometimes feel lonely and I wish we could share more moments of connection."
• Instead of "We never make love again," try "I miss physical contact and I'd like to explore with you how we could reconnect."

Creating a safe space where everyone can speak without fear of judgment is key. Plan a quiet time, free from screens and interruptions, to discuss these sensitive topics.

Active listening for a deeper connection

Communication is as much about listening as it is about speaking. Active listening means being fully present for your partner, seeking to understand their point of view without immediately preparing your response. Nod, ask open-ended questions ("How do you feel about that?") and rephrase what they say ("If I understand correctly, you feel that...") to show them they are being heard. This quality of listening validates the other person's emotions and strengthens feelings of trust and security, fertile ground for desire.

Tip 2: Prioritize Individual Well-being for a Flourishing "We"

It's often forgotten, but a couple's libido is the sum of two individual libidos. If one partner is exhausted, stressed, or unhappy, it's difficult to generate a shared energy. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish; it's essential for the health of your relationship.

Stress management: The silent enemy of libido

Chronic stress is a real passion killer. It triggers the release of cortisol, a hormone that, in the long term, can inhibit the production of sex hormones like testosterone. Learning to manage stress is therefore essential.

A Cleveland Clinic study revealed that stress and fatigue are among the most common psychological causes of decreased libido in both men and women.

Explore techniques that work for you: meditation, yoga, deep breathing, walks in nature... Even 10 minutes a day can make a significant difference. For more ideas on integrating wellness into your daily life, check out our lifestyle blog .

The power of sleep and physical exercise

Lack of sleep directly affects energy, mood, and hormone levels. Aim for 7 to 8 hours of quality sleep per night. Physical activity, on the other hand, is a powerful stimulant. It improves blood circulation, reduces stress, boosts self-esteem, and can increase testosterone levels. There's no need to become a top athlete; moderate activity such as brisk walking, swimming, or dancing, practiced regularly, will have beneficial effects.

Tip 3: Nature at the Service of Your Desire and Vitality

Once the foundations of mental and physical well-being are in place, nature offers us valuable tools to support our body and energy. Diet and certain natural supplements can play a significant supporting role.

Food that awakens the senses

Certain nutrients are essential for healthy hormonal function and boundless energy. Incorporate foods rich in zinc (oysters, pumpkin seeds), which contributes to testosterone production, magnesium (dark chocolate, almonds) to combat stress, and flavonoids (berries, citrus fruits) for blood circulation, into your diet. Consider cooking together to transform meal preparation into a moment of sharing and intimacy. Discover inspiring ideas on our recipe blog .

Discover Shilajit: A Himalayan treasure for vitality

Among nature's best-kept secrets is Shilajit. This mineral resin, formed from the slow decomposition of plants in the Himalayan mountains, has been a cornerstone of Ayurvedic medicine for centuries. Rich in over 85 minerals and trace elements in ionic form, its most potent component is fulvic acid.

How can Shilajit help?

• Energy booster: Shilajit works at the cellular level to improve ATP production, the body's primary energy source. By combating chronic fatigue, it frees up energy for other activities...
• Hormonal balance: Studies have shown that it can help support healthy testosterone levels in men, a key hormone for libido. In women, by promoting overall balance, it contributes to better hormonal regulation.
• Stress reduction: By helping the body to better adapt to stress (it is an adaptogen), it counteracts the negative effects of cortisol on libido.

Incorporating a small amount of pure Shilajit into your daily routine can be the natural boost your body needs to regain its full vitality. Our 30g PURVAL Shilajit resin is a pure, high-quality source of this natural treasure, ideal for starting your wellness regimen.

Tip 4: Recreate Novelty and Break the Routine

The human brain thrives on novelty. Routine, while comfortable, is one of the biggest desire killers. It's time to inject some spontaneity and playfulness into your relationship.

Surprise as an aphrodisiac

There's no need to plan a trip to the other side of the world. Surprise can be found in small gestures: an unexpected sweet word, a candlelit dinner on a Tuesday evening, a secretly planned date... The goal is to break the autopilot and show the other person that they're on your mind. This anticipation and effort create a positive tension that can easily turn into desire.

Rediscovering non-sexual touch

When intimacy is lacking, we sometimes tend to avoid all physical contact for fear of it being interpreted as an invitation. Reverse this trend! Reintroduce touch without expectation: hold hands while walking, offer a shoulder massage without it necessarily leading to anything more, hug each other more often. These simple gestures rebuild emotional security and physical closeness, making the transition to a more sexual intimacy much smoother and more natural.

Tip 5: Reconnect on an Emotional and Intellectual Level

You fell in love with the whole person, not just their body. Rekindling desire also means rekindling the admiration, interest, and connection you have for each other. Reconnect as individuals and as friends.

Sharing common passions and projects

What did you enjoy doing together in the beginning? Is there a new activity you'd both like to try? A pottery class, a hike, a DIY project... Creating new memories and working together toward a common goal strengthens your bond like nothing else. You rediscover each other in a new light, which fuels attraction.

As the writer Antoine de Saint-Exupéry said: "Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction."

Creating a shared future, even through small projects, is a powerful driving force for a relationship. For more insights on building a fulfilling life as a couple, explore our main news blog .

Conclusion: A Journey, Not a Destination

Reigniting desire in a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. It requires patience, commitment, and a lot of love. By applying these five tips—communicating authentically, practicing self-care, harnessing nature's power with allies like Shilajit, breaking the routine, and reconnecting emotionally—you're not trying to recapture what you once had, but rather building a new, more mature, and deeper form of intimacy. It's an invitation to a new journey together.

The first step starts today. Choose one of these tips and discuss it with your partner tonight. What small action can you take right now?

And you, what are your tips for keeping the flame alive every day? Share your experience in the comments!